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“Let there be space in your togetherness."

Let there be space in your togetherness.
— Rumi

This week, I had the first class in a three part series to get my Reiki I certification. Reiki has fascinated me for many years, but only a few months ago did I actually receive a session. After a couple of sessions, I was even more intrigued and decided to continue going deeper by getting my level I training. After this week’s class, I began to think about the idea of space: physically, energetically, and emotionally. What does it mean to create and hold space?

Being a dancer and a teacher, space is an idea I often find myself exploring. It is the element of Dance I spend the most time teaching and talking about: how we take up space, the ways in which we move through space, how space limitations can change our movement, designing the space, etc. As a teacher and coach, I am very aware of space in terms of energy and providing a place where my students and clients feel safe to express themselves.

It is important to me that when holding the space for others to sift through their ideas in order to find a deeper connection to their authentic self that the energy is one of openness and compassion. I truly believe that as the holder of the space it is my responsibility to understand that my behaviors and beliefs will affect the inhabitants of that space. As I discussed last week, beliefs can be both debilitating and facilitating for people and many times the beliefs we hold do not even come from us. I am mindful of the questions I choose to ask and the opinions I choose to share. For, it is important to me that I am not influencing the space besides holding it open for self-discovery.

You don’t have to be a teacher, parent, or coach to create and hold space for others. We hold space for our friends when they need support. We hold space for our partners as they continue to grow. And we bring our energy into every space we encounter.

Take a moment to reflect on how you create and hold space for people in your life. Then take a moment and reflect on the spaces where you feel most comfortable and safe. Are they places that you created and hold for yourself, like your bedroom or home? Or are they places where others hold the space for you, like a yoga class, special interest group, or a close friend?

Notice if you are always holding space for others or if you tend to always take up space. It is important that we find a balance of holding and taking up space. If we are constantly holding space for others, we do need to find a way or place where we are being held and cared for. If you observed that you mostly take up space, then try to take a step back and maybe offer holding the space for others more. Energy should always be in a constant flow, when it gets stuck that is when we experience uneasiness and turmoil. By simply shifting how we hold and take up space, we can release the energy and restore balance.


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"The day she stopped getting stuck in ‘why’ was the day she finally started getting the answers she was looking for."

The day she stopped getting stuck in ‘why’ was the day she finally started getting the answers she was looking for.

I just finished re-staging a dance I choreographed a few years ago when I was on faculty at a university in CT. The piece is called “Cemented” and was an exploration of feeling stuck. Why do we as people get stuck on the same thought or hold onto a certain memory? Why do we just feel stuck in certain aspects of our life but not others? What makes us unstuck? My creative process always begins with asking a question and then working with my dancers to talk through possible solutions or outcomes both with our bodies and minds. I vividly remember this creative process and how fixated or “stuck “ I was on trying to find an answer to getting unstuck.

I enjoy re-staging my previous work because it allows me to revisit an idea with a new lens. I have new bodies in front of me to work with and though we have a detailed outline already in place, there is still room to play and come up with new solutions. This time around, I realized that I was not so fixated on how to become unstuck, but was more intrigued by the idea of being OK with being stuck.  Why is it that when we are stuck we feel it is necessary to fix something in order to become unstuck? Maybe if we allowed ourselves to marinate in the “unstuckness” we would find something new about ourselves.

Through the creative process this time around, I formed two new perspectives. First, that being stuck means we aren’t being truly present in our lives because we are hoping or waiting for something else to happen (living in the future) or we aren’t allowing ourselves to let go of something (living in the past). Second, that being stuck is something we need to struggle with because it is in the act of struggling, maybe even making some mistakes, and engaging in the day to day stuff that we truly learn and grow as individuals. This is where the deep cognitive learning, the change, and the growth happens; not in the quick fixes. I fully acknowledge that these two perspectives can be somewhat contradictory, but for now I am allowing myself to sit with them.

There is such beauty in re-visiting something over time. We get to come back to it with more knowledge, wisdom, and experience, which allow us to see things in a new light and through a new lens. This is not exclusive to the creative process, but can also be applied to all aspects of our lives: people we have encountered, situations we have experienced, skills/activities we have attempted, beliefs we have held/still hold, limiting views of ourselves, etc.

What are some things you would like to revisit in your life through a new lens? Where are you feeling stuck and can you allow yourself to enjoy the “stuckness” and not judge it?


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