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“Your life is a story of transitions. You are always leaving one chapter behind while moving onto the next.”

Your life is a story of transitions. You are always leaving one chapter behind while moving onto the next.
— Unknown

If you asked any of the performers I have worked with what my major pet peeve is when it comes to a show or a dance piece, they would tell you, transitions. Transitions are an integral part of the flow of a show. In fact, the transitions can make or break a show. For example, in the Broadway production, “An American in Paris,” there was a great amount of detail given to the transitions. The set changes were choreographed into the dance phrases so that the performers were moving the audience from one scene to the next. As an observer, I was never taken out of the world that was created, and it was beautiful to see how the performers not only interacted with each other but also the environment around them.

Here is another example how art imitates life. Transitions, and our approach to transitions, can make or break our happiness in our lives. I, like many, do not always enjoy transitions because it means that some sort of change probably took place. Change is hard; it is usually accompanied with turmoil, unknowns, and angst. We are so worried and focused on getting to the next place, event, or milestone that we forget about how we are getting there.

If we shifted our view on transitions and decided to allow ourselves to really engage in the transitions, we would realize that they are actually pretty magical. It is during these times that we learn and grow the most as people. We are usually challenged to step out of our comfort zone. Every time we do that we are adding/reinforcing our foundation and becoming stronger individuals. Ideally, we would approach transitions the same way we approach getting to the next place, event, or milestone so that the Flow and engagement in our lives is not disrupted. This is the true manifestation of being present.   

So what are some ways we can shift our mindset on transitions?

Remain Open.

Many times, when we are faced with change and new challenges our “fight or flight” instinct kicks in and we shut down. If we remain open, then we are allowing ourselves to approach the transition with a positive outlook. Helping us to maintain an upward spiral and not downward spiral.

Be Curious.

If we approach transitions with curiosity, then we are continuously asking questions and engaging with the environment around us. We never know what new idea or path may present itself. By saying “Yes,” this new opportunity could lead you to a place that gives you more than you could have ever imagined.     

Find Your Breath.

Your breath is your foundation; it is your life force and energy. Connecting to your breath in times of anxiety, frustration, and confusion will help you to continue to stay open and be curious. A strong breath practice is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

 

I am always reminded that in order to become a beautiful butterfly, the caterpillar has to engage in the transition. If we want to be seen as we are truly intended to be, then we, too, need to engage in all the transitions or our journey.  

 

Do you need help working through and approaching transitions with a new mindset? I would love to guide and support you through your process! Email me at steph_e_simpson@yahoo.com to set up your FREE 30 min discovery call and to hear more about packages.

 

“We are only as strong as the foundation we build.”

We are only as strong as the foundation we build.

I found myself saying this many times this week in a variety of situations. First, in a workshop proposal for a women’s leadership conference focusing on success, then when I was teaching yoga to my faculty class and was stressing the importance of proper alignment, and finally when mentoring some of my young adult clients on decision making. So what is our foundation, how do we build it, and how can it help us?

YOU are the foundation for the life you are building. The stronger your foundation, the better you are at making decisions, dealing with adversity, and living a fuller, more successful life. Through observing that which serves and does not serve us, we can lead a more authentic life. There are so many outside ideas and opinions of what we should be doing or thinking, but we need to take the time to figure out what of those things actually align with our authentic selves. It is ok to question and decide to make new rules for yourself. Figuring out what makes you feel alive and what you are passionate about makes you more confident and proud to be who you are. Knowing these things will help you to create a practice that maintains and supports your foundation through using your positive self talk techniques and engaging in activities that continue to fuel your energy not drain you.

After reading an article in Psychology Today about anxiety in college students and working with my private young adult clients, I realized the universal need to teach coping skills. Unfortunately, there is an epidemic in our society, which goes beyond just our youth, to turn to unhealthy vices as a quick fix to help us feel better, to deal with stress and anxiety, and sometimes to feel that we belong. Drugs and alcohol are the most common of these vices, but we cannot forget over eating, smoking, etc. These vices provide us a quick pleasurable experience, which we mistake as happiness. The more we pursue this “happiness” we begin to create bad habits that can stick with us for a while. Having a strong foundation helps us to turn away from these vices and instead find ways to release the stress that help us to create good habits that will continue to serve us throughout our life.

One of the techniques I have begun to use with my clients is having them list the things that give them a “natural high” and make them feel empowered. Acknowledging the places and things that feed our authentic selves can help us in the areas where we struggle. For example, I may not be an active musical theatre performer anymore but I still remember what it feels like to be on stage and the joy it gave me throughout my life. When I am feeling down, stressed, or overwhelmed, I turn to musical theatre to “cope.” I’ll put my headphones in and listen to “One Day More” from Les Miserables and let the chords vibrate through my entire body changing my energy frequency. Sometimes, I’ll go into my room and belt out “Someone Like You” from Jekyll & Hyde giving me that instant gratification and allowing me to “let off some steam.”

What in you life makes you feel empowered and gives you that natural high? Maybe it’s physical, like playing a sport or doing yoga or building something? Maybe it’s more mental, like doing a crossword puzzle? Or maybe it’s more creative, like writing a poem or painting? The next time you feel stressed or overwhelmed and want to reach for that chocolate bar or glass of wine try to do one of the things you just wrote down and see how you feel after that.

 

Are you ready to build your foundation and lead a more fulfilled life? I'd love to help you! Email me at steph_e_simpson@yahoo.com to set up your FREE 30 min discovery call!

 

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